Words Of Congratulation

There’s no denying that when a woman falls in love it’s really tough to ever let that go. Most of us recognize that love isn’t something that pops into our lives everyday… When we meet and fall in love with the man we believe is our one true love, we’re going to hold onto him with everything we’ve got.

Beautiful.

When that man decides he no longer wants to be with you, (or he just couldn’t be with you for whatever reason that he might throw!) the pain can be really horrendous. It’s really hard for anyone to understand what you’re feeling unless they’ve also gone through a somber break up. The only thing you can think of is how you can get him back.

Beuti-FOOL.

Chop-chop!
OK, My ex-BF got married last night!

:)

So I dated this guy for over EIGHT years. He is a really nice guy I would say. It was all the way a CHOC-DIPPED-MARSHMALLOW journey. Sweet and nice. Ok, there were NUTS in between the nyummy bites but things were fine until a mysterious infection stole our happiness spread by the virus named FATE. (Infection got worse when the SHANA’s virus came! It is like a cancer, without me realizing, slowly its killing the relationship. TQ, oh-I’m so-lucky-you-are-not-my-MIL!)

We are clear on the reasons why we broke up in the first place, and know that we don't want to get back together and hurt ourselves again.

God is fair. So I rather call it a DESTINY.

We then shifted the partnership to a friendship.

It's the dreaded four-words... "Can we be friends?" A must question to be asked when a relationship hits the rocks. In reality, the questions should be "Should we be friends?" And, if so, "How will we delineate that relationship?"

Rules were set.

To stick by them? It was hard. That I have to confess.

Good friendship is what we hold.

Now he is married.

As the confession made, it is really hard to stick by the set rules.

Handling the relationship with someone we broke up with can be quite tricky. Sometimes we may feel uncomfortable and completely out of place just being around them, and sometimes we long to see them. Whatever said and done, it is true that we certainly had a lot in common and shared a good understanding, which took us as far as 8 years in a relationship.

But now, things are not going to be the same. The friendship shouldn’t stay. It may not be a really good idea to turn the bitter romance into a sweet friendship when one of us is married.

We had our last goodbye on Monday. It was a really sad end. Not at all have I felt bad that he is getting married. But the fact that I’m losing a brother and a best friend.

Yes, I’m being invited to his reception tomorrow. And NO, I don’t think I’m going.

Just wishing you the happily ever after you deserve. Congratulations on your wedding day! May the years ahead be filled with LASTING joy.


Friendship can be rekindled when we both are married. Next year?

The Icky Feeling Last Much Less Today

I’m laying in bed with flu for company. What a nice way to spend the 3 days leave.

Oh yes, I guess it is not too late for a Deepavali wish to be pronounced. (The mood of writing doesn’t arrive yesterday!)

Happy Deepavali to those celebrating. Happy New Year with plenty of peace and prosperity.

Today, it brings back memories of my Wit-Bix kid. When I used to get sick a lot. Flu. Tired. Low-grade fever. Asthma.

This was my way of saying “no.”

When I was a girl, the only way I knew how to be whoever I was and the only way to get attention and have an excuse to say no to something was to feel physically bad.

What a huge waste of energy that was!

So what’s your way of saying No? Do you have to tell yourself a “story” that makes saying “no” okay?

So let’s grow ourselves up today and tell ourselves how amazing, how beautiful, how powerful, how attractive we are. Tell ourselves about the zillions of options we have in love and work and play.

Imagine them all.

I’m going to look after myself in bed and on the couch.

Reading, sleeping, complaining, smiling, laughing, listening to music, dancing as best I can…perhaps stepping outside to the lake this evening breathing the greens. (minus the Mat Rempits and PDA couples please!)

And MAYBE working too-3 audit reports and 1 audit checklist to be completed, though that’s likely not helping me here, now.

Now I’m not saying that our brains and emotions are why we’re sick, but stress and emotions are undeniably such a huge factor in anything that limits us in any way.

Lets find what floats our ship today .

And let’s have fun doing it.


Nothing hurts more then waiting since I don't even know what I'm waiting for anymore.