A Lesson Is Learned

Lesson 1.0: Put constant observation on the handphone when there are kids around.

Other agent guilty and responsible for the misdeed: Adult in the picture - Brother X.

Effect of the misdeed on the person in respect of whom offence committed: Causing great surprise-jaw dropping.

I guess i just need to spring clean the handphone more often now.

Competing With Ourselves

Are you aware when we compare how we are doing with how others are doing we will end up feeling distress?

Well I think the vital is to do the best as a person. The only contender we have is ourselves. And the only person that we need to race with is US. What is needed is the longing for improvement and advancement.

And the best way to learn and grow is from the failures.

If someone plays the guitar way better than us, think highly for their achievement. Grab the opportunity to learn from them with an open heart.

I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I only try to dance better than myself. -Mikhail Baryshnikov

What are your thoughts?

All my friends are getting married... I'm just getting awesome.

All my friends are earning way better than me... I'm just smiling.

All my friends are driving a bigger car... Hey, can i have a ride? :)


We are all destined for greatness. It is yet to come.

Benar Tapi Pelik

Buletin Utama, 26 April 2011:
Penjawat Awam yang berpenampilan menarik dan suka bekerja lebih masa lebih cenderung mengambil rasuah.

C.R.A.P.

BUT,
Hey! Ain't this a good way of coming back early everyday?

"Encik Boss, saya nak elak fitnah."


2 years as 'Gomen', 240409-240411. Redha&bersyukur dengan rezeki sebagai Penjawat Awam.

Zip-Zap

This is a confession.
It's a secret...
I hate to admit this, i'm a BELIBER.
*just for today.

Baby, baby, baby...ooooh.

The 'I'

My boss, Dr-Oh-Shut-Up-I-Know-Everything will not be in the office for 3 days! How i wish it could be longer. OR forever. I have worked with so many people before. But never i came accross with such centered-egoistic boss. His ego that ate the happiness of coming to work and has spreaded to the whole division.

...Someone who considered himself the most talented guy in the whole WORLD. *pftt

You know how they say there are no bad ideas? But that’s not true for him. All the ideas are bad ideas except gor his...YES, for the guy who held in his hands the fate of my career.

You can pretty much imagine how my life would be now.

i'm sad.

How i wish i can start sending my resume around...

The Q&A

He: You are too fussy about man.

Me: No. I'm not. I'm just attracted to very few. Seriously, I'm not picky. Ok... yeah, it is not an easy thing for me to fall for someone. Perhaps its all because of the past...it has taught me a lot about love and man. I know what i want now. Why?

He: Idk, its been one hell of hard time to please your wish. I still think that you are really fussy.

Me: *LOL* NOOOOOOO! I went out with few guys before this. I enjoyed many of my dates and even made some good male friends through the process, but no one in particular stood out enough as far as going together on a steady basis. The path doesn't crossed. But when I look back, I realize that its a learning field and I am so glad I went through that.

He: Or you are comparing your date to your ex? I guess before S* started treating you badly, there had to be some good times together.

Me: Of course we had many good memories together. But I refused to let him make me hate ALL men! I paid attention to the character of a person. To tell you the truth, I can easily fall for someone with a strong character and a smart man.

He: So do you think i'm smart enough?

Me: i dont see the relevance here.

He: Come on babe. What's the criteria?

Me: I need someone who aligns with who I really am and with what I really enjoy. Again, someone with strong character and smart. Someone who is caring and funny... and last but not least, his commitment to do righteousness.

He: Do you think i'm your ideal man?

Me: YES, you may be an ideal man for someone else. But NO, not for me. We are like 'brother' and 'sister' remember?

He: You are really choosy...

Me: TQ. I take it as a compliment. ;)

Marriage is icing on the cake, but you should at first care more about finding the RIGHT person rather than about where it is headed immediately after you meet.

What's Up, Doc?

No, this is not about a fictional rabbit who is perhaps the most famous rabbit in the world, not bad for a make believe one is it?

This is about another Bug who has bloodsucking everybody in my Section and are biting his way through the whole Division, leaving unsuspecting victims with aching-emotional bites.

I came across this letter after getting another 'bite' from the Bug. Though not directly being 'bitten', but whenever another colleague got their 'bites', anyone can get an infestation of it, and this does not mean a lack of enthusiasm that has reflected in our work.

Be. Very. Afraid.

THE LETTER:

My Boss Is A Self-Serving Ego-Nightmare.

Dear Office-Politics,

My boss is a self-serving ego-nightmare at the cost of my self esteem. He had minimal previous experience in the field his post assumes, yet assumes he has has magically accumulated expert knowledge of every area of our function. He contradicts or disagrees with every opinion or comment we say to the point he constantly contradicts himself. He takes over ever meeting we attend.

Twice in the last 2 weeks he has chased out people who were helping me and taken over, only to make things worse. The last time he did this he made my problems worse and I had to wait until he went to a meeting so I could get the person who was helping me back so that I could complete my task.

He talks over people when they are talking but does it in a way that he says we interrupted him. I have 12 years+ experience, however anything I attempt to contribute is criticized extensively. He never says “hello” or “Did you have a nice weekend/holiday“. My work mate describes him as the rudest person she has ever worked for.

He is exceptionally moody, some days, such as last Monday, he systematically went to each of our desks and found a way to upset us. He never delivers on any of his promises. He gives all the interesting and high profile projects to one of the team (who was our most junior and by far least experienced), but he has positioned this person as the most high ranking. This person is an infamous brown noser and is very giggly and ‘touchy’ with him. They have lots of ‘whispering’ meetings at each others desks. I am sure this is not an affair, what I am sure is that she is providing him data about what the rest of us are doing, as he has slipped up a few times knowing things I have not told him. What is interesting is I have observed that he brown noses managers that are superior in position to him.

I used to deliver huge projects for a well known high tech firm and now I am working in the back ground doing menial tasks, I have to approve everything I do through him, this is a huge ‘demotion’ for me. I do critical jobs (when possible), in secret so that he does not make me constantly re-work them, such as helping other departments out.

My once loved job is now hell. I have considered moving and have had a couple of interviews but feel resentful that I should have to move. My other work mate is at their wits end also and has the identical observations I do, (from what I can see he treats this work mate worse than he treats me).

I know I should go to the HR department but I am terrified of losing my job as we have limited income at home. In the last round of layoffs they got rid of “trouble causers” (as termed by one manager), and many good people were let go.

Feeling trapped, losing my self esteem, please help.

Trapped

THE REPLY:

OFFICE-POLITICS REPLY BY DR. RICK BRANDON AND DR. MARTY SELDMAN

Dear Trapped,

You describe your boss as full of power-tripping, naked self-interest and ego gland hyperactivity, technically incompetent and unknowledgeable, interpersonally unskilled and rude, not a very nice person, a power tyrant and ego tripper, an overly political player who plays favorites and uses the new junior as a spy, and into a low-integrity good old boy network. But, Trapped, other than that, congrats on having such a great boss!

Seriously, it’s so obvious that we hope you can develop a sense of humor and realize if he’s so blindly obvious perhaps:

a) You can take it less personally and see it for what he is, defusing, asking yourself,” how miserable his life must be to be this insecure and unaware,” etc.. Remind yourself that only “hurt people hurt people,” and while compassion is tough when you get burned, you don’t want to be so angry that it’s like taking poison (anger) and thinking it’ll kill the other.

b) It’s likely that others see him for the blindly obvious behavior and often power pedestals are shaky to stand on. Maybe others will see him for what he is, and he may topple. Take solace in that.

c) Focus on building your own positive buzz and reputation (self-promo, network with seniors).

d) Don’t give the benefit of the doubt to the junior brown-noser since she’s getting all the benefit and you’re getting all the doubt! Protect yourself by having more private agenda, keeping your friends close but your enemies closer by not revealing what she will simply pass on.

Sometimes when someone is this blatantly political, punitive, and controlling, they are symptoms of a tyrant running a “private power pocket,” sometimes called a “closed shop.” This means he may have some hidden naked self-interest he is hiding and over-controls his department because he wants to maintain control, hoard information or resources, conceal illegal or quasi-legal behavior, or perpetuate some unethical ends.

Other clues are absence of open communication flow in and out of the team, little disagreement allowed, whistle-blowers being punished in the past (so be careful), and an environment of people’s living in fear — do we allow this demigod to keep hurting the company or blow the whistle, yet we might be risking revenge. As you ponder whether it’s safe to tell appropriate people, please consider the risks and rewards carefully, including the fact that whenever a private power pocket exists, it usually means that the layer of management above it has a huge political blind spot, or is privy to the power pocket and lending tacit endorsement. In some companies, they are even accomplices. We’re not suggesting this is happening, just that it’s a possibility.

Finally, regarding feeling trapped, you ALWAYS have choice, first over your attitude.

Best wishes and stay savvy! Thanks for writing to Office-Politics.

Regards,

Rick Brandon, Ph.d. and Marty Seldman, Ph.D. Co-authors, Survival of the Savvy: High-Integrity Political Tactics for Career and Company Success

Mom told me once, "If you are patient in one moment of anger, you will escape a hundred days of sorrow.” So i guess, i just have to BE PATIENT and PRAY HARD... the world is broad and wide.

I'm just a little wabbit!

Apple to Apple

If I had to choose the best of the best word games, without a shadow of doubt it would be Scrabble. But forlornly, it has been securely kept inside the car since I lost my best Scrabble chums - mum is quite busy with work, King went back to State in August last year and friends don’t really believe games that need ‘accepted wisdom’ and ‘thinking cap’ is fun and entertaining.

And the usual reply that I can almost expected, “Scrabble game? Ergh. BORINGGGG!”

And now, thanks to King, I’m now Apples to Apples game fag!

It’s really one of those word games that remind you that word games are not just for nerds. It's as straightforward as "comparing apples to apples” yet fun and hilarious! (Prepare to perk up your debating talents.)

Still searching for the party set in KL though. As for now, I bookmarked nutsybolts.com

Anyone? (Let’s join the hilarious experience)


An apple a day keeps the doctor away.

Call Me Crazums!

The main ‘raison d'être’ why I crave for an iPad: Gorgeous case from Michael Kors.


Yes, you can call me crazy...

As how Apple is putting it, "Classic, contemporary chic with plenty of protection."

You strike my mind and eyes MK iPad cover! But of course, I will take the iPad inside, too. :)

Just like having my favorite Tea-Off donuts from the Big Apple, exploring the melodic realm of indulgence when donuts collide with green tea. Awesome.


It is 115 days to my birthday. LOL.

Another Cruel Pneumonia?

I guess all countries should straight away trigger their pandemic awareness plans. Countries should remain on high alert for outbreaks of influenza-like illness and the cruel pneumonia.

King,
I'm really sorry for your situation right now. I’m praying that you’ll get better soon. If only I can send a Care Package to you… But I guess, by the time you received the UPS parcel, you are fully recovered. Just hope you will get back in the swing of things real soon. Take care!

Been reading a lot on Pneumonia of late. It is attacking the circle of my close people. And i'm wondering why.

As what King has called me-The Pneumonia Master, i guess i'm just qualified to be awarded the Master in Pnuemonia from the University of Lalaland.

Well, there are 3 kinds of pneumonia - viral, fungal, and bacterial. With treatment, most types of bacterial pneumonia can be cured within 1 to 2 weeks. Viral pneumonia may last longer, and mycoplasmal pneumonia may take 4 to 6 weeks to resolve completely.

Wow. That long? (Heel fast King! I bet Wharton Uni just isn’t the same without you.)

There are several ways to prevent pneumonia. Appropriately treating underlying illnesses (such as flu and coughing) can decrease a person's risk of pneumonia. Smoking cessation is important as it helps to limit lung damage and because the smoke interferes with many of the body's natural defenses against pneumonia.

For the treatment, all a person need is to get plenty of rest. We just have to stay well hydrated by drinking lots of plain water and 7up (and i read somewhere that chicken soup is good too!). Coughing out any phlegm and breath deeply from time to time is really important. So even though we are under the par, we can't just be a couch potato. Breathing exercise helps a lot.

There are fairly a number of home remedies for pneumonia and one of it is by using the garlic. It is considered as a marvelous treatment for those who are suffering from pneumonia. Aside from its ability to bring down the body heat, it can also tone down respiration and pulse in just 48 hours. Or we may as well opt for the garlic paste and apply it on the chest to make us feel warm.

Impressive? Ok, I'm a good Googler.

I guess i have to own a stethoscope soon.


Lets get fit.

Mudd

Dear Mudd,
The loss is still very fresh and raw for us to deal with. The death of someone we care about is always difficult especially if the death is sudden and untimely. It's simply devastating to have to go through and i know you're not fully done grieving at this point, it's been less than a week since passing.

But when i think back, i bet he would want us to celebrate his life, not mourn his death forever. He would want us to be happy, not be sad all the time. His spirit still lives on in our heart and in our memories and NO ONE can ever take that away from us ever. Take comfort in knowing that.

And on your 29th birthday,

I'm wishing you all the great things in life, hope this day will bring you an extra share of all that makes you happiest. Just be grateful for all that you have in life, it's all very precious!

Looking forward to many more years of fun and friendship and many more of your birthdays...

xoxo,
yanna

Count your life by smiles, not tears. Love you!

Get Well Soon!

How serious is a lung and urine infection?

Dear Alif,
If knowing that someone cares may help you to heal fast, then you should be feeling better once you are up tomorrow! As you rest and heal, know that you are thought of warmly and wished a quick recovery.

Hope you perk up soon bro!


Shisha contains 36 times more nicotine than cigarette tobacco. A delicious killer!

Adapting To Change

2011 is Loading ██████████████████ 99%

Happy New Year All!

Launching off the Mission Ttypwe

Twenty Eight

Happy 28th Birthday King!

(Just imagine it is a big flashing birthday wish on the JumboTron during a Steelers' game at Heinz Field)

You have 24 hours to do as you wish.
Better get busy!
Wishing you fun times, and the best of days!

Congratulation on your excellent exam results Dr. Future Harvard's Professor!

Early Riser

I love being able to get up, and greet a wonderful new day!

It's Saturday morning, and the 3 hours sleep that i had last night does not stopped me for being an early riser TODAY.

I used to start my day jumping out of bed and rushing to get myself ready. Lately, sadly, that excited feeling isn't there anymore. I would walk into work, looking rumpled and barely awake. Blame the Night Owl life that i'm living now-staying up late, streaming movies, surfing the net, 'stalking' and jadajada! Oh and yes, all the take home office work! *Cant they realized that when we are refreshed, we are ready for a full day at work each day?

I'm going to renew my morning ritual from today. I miss being a morning person.The sunrise... how the day slowly gets brighter and when the brilliant colors start to seep into the sky! Beautiful. I miss my morning jog! I miss the quietude.

Saturday,
I am fortunate to have woken up and alive.
I have a precious life, I am not going to waste.
I am going to expand my heart and have kind thoughts towards others.
I am not going to get angry.
I am going to be happy.
And I am going to make this feeling stay every morning, every day!

There is no better way to start off your day than to wake early! Hey, i have extra hours now!


Breakfast date with JUJU. (✿◠‿ ◠)

Until I Say "I DO".

It’s the month that is full of love. When February is known as the Month of Love to the rest of the world, I choose December in its place.

It is the second week of December and my weekends for December are all marked with weddings. I have been receiving a frequent wedding invitations from friends these days, and been thinking about it on how many people of my age are, at this point, settling down and starting their own families - another obvious indication that I, certainly, are coming of age.

While I don’t have any plans of tying the knot just yet (and this post has got nothing to do with getting married), I confess that I like browsing through wedding sites lately because let’s face it, weddings - the colors, the themes, the photographs, the flowers, laces, and ribbons, the diamonds, the giveaways, the invitations – Ohemgee, are just so pleasurable to look at.

I’m not saying go and be inspired to get married. I’m saying, go and be inspired to do something out of ordinary. ;)

Hehe.

The love heat is warming the house today. My brother is getting engaged tomorrow (hooray)! YES, my YOUNGER brother is getting engaged, YES, that should have happened to me first and YES, I'm very happy for him. After the long 11 years of dating, I guess it is just the right time for him to take their relationship to the next phase.

Being the eldest of the family and still not wearing a ring is going to be a big thing tomorrow, something which I can foretell. "When are you going to get married?" is going to be another ‘scripted’ question from relatives. Just like meeting the relatives during the Eid and everyone would be asking when I will be getting married. It was intense! Or rather I call it annoying.

I'm a big fan of being true. I would say something vague and honest, like, "Oh, when the time comes..." And then quickly change the subject: "So, how are you doing?" "Any fun Eid plans?" "How's your daughter doing?" "I love your Kebaya, where did you get it?”(You catch my drift...) If all else fails, I just grinned (evilly) and say: "Next school holiday, actually. Just wait for the card".

Well I’m still finding fun and witty responses to the questions tomorrow. Just to make sure that it won’t blight my good vibe and the ‘loveliness’. Just got to be happy that someone else has found the one, and remember that mine will always be best for me, doesn't matter if it is first or last!

But I think I have some good thought of letting him jumping the queue...
1) To use this as a test run to how I want my engagement/wedding to be and
2) Good things come to those who wait. ^_^


Ayah, Happy 58th Birthday! God knows how the world you mean to me. I LOVE YOU!

p.e.l.i.k

Dear Mr. Stalker
I'M TRULY SORRY...
But you just got to eat this.

Weirdo.

Just wanna let you know that you're so weird.
You're so weird that you don't even know that you're weird.
EVERYONE keeps telling you that you're weird but you wont listen because you're weird.
How weird can you get, weird?

Stupid.

I don't think you can even understand the term stupid.
Dont be so stupid, but you are stupid.
You dont even have to act stupid to be stupid.
You try to act smart but you are so stupid.
I hope you know how stupid you are because if you don't see that you're stupid, you will always be stupid.

Drama Director.

Im so sorry because you're so dramatic.
It's probably your fault for being so dramatic.
Well i guess it cant be help since you are so dramatic.
If life is sad for you , its because you're so dramatic.
No words can describe how dramatic you are...

Weirdo, Stupid, Drama Director...

That's why I'm updating a post on your weirdness, stupidity and drama.
I really hope that you will read this (and please stop stalking!) and learn that you are so weird, stupid and dramatic.
If you finally realize that you're so weird, stupid and dramatic,
You better buy me ice cream cause it is not weird, stupid and dramatic.
But you probably wont, because you're so weird, stupid and dramatic.

With much, extra "love",
yanna


Truth hurts.

Words Of Congratulation

There’s no denying that when a woman falls in love it’s really tough to ever let that go. Most of us recognize that love isn’t something that pops into our lives everyday… When we meet and fall in love with the man we believe is our one true love, we’re going to hold onto him with everything we’ve got.

Beautiful.

When that man decides he no longer wants to be with you, (or he just couldn’t be with you for whatever reason that he might throw!) the pain can be really horrendous. It’s really hard for anyone to understand what you’re feeling unless they’ve also gone through a somber break up. The only thing you can think of is how you can get him back.

Beuti-FOOL.

Chop-chop!
OK, My ex-BF got married last night!

:)

So I dated this guy for over EIGHT years. He is a really nice guy I would say. It was all the way a CHOC-DIPPED-MARSHMALLOW journey. Sweet and nice. Ok, there were NUTS in between the nyummy bites but things were fine until a mysterious infection stole our happiness spread by the virus named FATE. (Infection got worse when the SHANA’s virus came! It is like a cancer, without me realizing, slowly its killing the relationship. TQ, oh-I’m so-lucky-you-are-not-my-MIL!)

We are clear on the reasons why we broke up in the first place, and know that we don't want to get back together and hurt ourselves again.

God is fair. So I rather call it a DESTINY.

We then shifted the partnership to a friendship.

It's the dreaded four-words... "Can we be friends?" A must question to be asked when a relationship hits the rocks. In reality, the questions should be "Should we be friends?" And, if so, "How will we delineate that relationship?"

Rules were set.

To stick by them? It was hard. That I have to confess.

Good friendship is what we hold.

Now he is married.

As the confession made, it is really hard to stick by the set rules.

Handling the relationship with someone we broke up with can be quite tricky. Sometimes we may feel uncomfortable and completely out of place just being around them, and sometimes we long to see them. Whatever said and done, it is true that we certainly had a lot in common and shared a good understanding, which took us as far as 8 years in a relationship.

But now, things are not going to be the same. The friendship shouldn’t stay. It may not be a really good idea to turn the bitter romance into a sweet friendship when one of us is married.

We had our last goodbye on Monday. It was a really sad end. Not at all have I felt bad that he is getting married. But the fact that I’m losing a brother and a best friend.

Yes, I’m being invited to his reception tomorrow. And NO, I don’t think I’m going.

Just wishing you the happily ever after you deserve. Congratulations on your wedding day! May the years ahead be filled with LASTING joy.


Friendship can be rekindled when we both are married. Next year?

The Icky Feeling Last Much Less Today

I’m laying in bed with flu for company. What a nice way to spend the 3 days leave.

Oh yes, I guess it is not too late for a Deepavali wish to be pronounced. (The mood of writing doesn’t arrive yesterday!)

Happy Deepavali to those celebrating. Happy New Year with plenty of peace and prosperity.

Today, it brings back memories of my Wit-Bix kid. When I used to get sick a lot. Flu. Tired. Low-grade fever. Asthma.

This was my way of saying “no.”

When I was a girl, the only way I knew how to be whoever I was and the only way to get attention and have an excuse to say no to something was to feel physically bad.

What a huge waste of energy that was!

So what’s your way of saying No? Do you have to tell yourself a “story” that makes saying “no” okay?

So let’s grow ourselves up today and tell ourselves how amazing, how beautiful, how powerful, how attractive we are. Tell ourselves about the zillions of options we have in love and work and play.

Imagine them all.

I’m going to look after myself in bed and on the couch.

Reading, sleeping, complaining, smiling, laughing, listening to music, dancing as best I can…perhaps stepping outside to the lake this evening breathing the greens. (minus the Mat Rempits and PDA couples please!)

And MAYBE working too-3 audit reports and 1 audit checklist to be completed, though that’s likely not helping me here, now.

Now I’m not saying that our brains and emotions are why we’re sick, but stress and emotions are undeniably such a huge factor in anything that limits us in any way.

Lets find what floats our ship today .

And let’s have fun doing it.


Nothing hurts more then waiting since I don't even know what I'm waiting for anymore.

Is Scrabble a word in Scrabble?

He’s the “Numbers Guy,” and I’m (supposedly) the “Words Girl.”
Guess who wins at Scrabble every time? I’ll give you a hint — it’s not me.

But, I’ve learned exactly why I come out behind - lack of strategy.

I’m usually the over-eager player who puts down any word that appears, regardless of points. However, my Scrabble mate’s competitive nature (and endless chanting of, “I’m the champion!”) finally got to me.

Going to play with patience and calculation tonight… I just want to win! *crossing-fingers*


I realized the same strategies could also be applied to everyday life.